In St Louis, Dr. Nicolosi said during the session titled, “The Condition of Male Homosexuality” that he has never seen an exception to the following family dynamic: if a gay man has an older brother, the older brother is always hostile and feared by the younger gay brother. He quoted Freud as having theorized this and Nicolosi said he has never seen an exception. Well, I have seen exceptions but I would like to take an informal poll on this question. Friends and foes and inbetweeners, is this accurate? A trend? Or just another overgeneralization from a few cases?
7 thoughts on “Older brothers of gay men: All feared and hostile?”
My older brother and I both are gay – I did not fear him at all. We have been on very friendly terms our entire lives. We both tried reparative therapy and were told the same things by two different counselors. We were also told that we did not bond with our dad. That came as surprising news to us and our dad (who we always thought of as our best bud). I don’t think we were born gay but I don’t know why either.
I grew up to have a gay orientation.
My oldest brother was openly hostile and hateful throughout my infancy and youth.
My other brother vacillated between friend and enemy at the drop of a hat.
They made my childhood hellish.
I had two older brothers. The oldest was openly hostile and hateful to me from the time I was in my crib.
The other brother vacilated back and forth from friend to enemy.
They made my home life as a child hellish.
Well there’s Jacob and Esau in the Bible. Jacob seems to be the Bible’s example of a man who had to struggle for his gender identity.
Although my older brother was very hostile growing up, it was him who feared me. I was some kinda whipper snapper.
Since you also asked over there, here’s a link to ExGayWatch for other readers to see some responses on this subject.
Sorry people, Warren’s question is in the middle of a thread on another subject. You’ll have to wade through.
Nicolosi overgeneralizing?! Say it ain’t so!
And yes, my priest is an exception to his rule.
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