Thanks for the follow-up. I a back to back today and tomorrow and want to follow up. I have read your note and see that you carefully crafted this follow-up response.

You used the phrase “What kind of people patiently plan and then wait for such a person’s failure?” Not “What kind of person…” which implies that gay men in general are being condemned. Please don’t misunderstand, I don’t mean to be condemnatory or impute motives to anyone. Comments make one sound more emphatic than is necessarily the case. I only remarked on this because I found the man’s life and death deserving of pity and perhaps his example might encourage some to broaden their perspective.

I use the term ex-gay industry because it is run for profit by people who are completely without professional credentials. It is a branch of the personal actualization industry, just more narrowly focused. No research supports its claims, in fact the reverse is true, but yet we still have to endure the constant rehashing of Nicolosi and Cameron’s nonsense. Reality doesn’t seem to matter. The term SSA doesn’t exist anywhere outside the ex-gay industry and is entirely polluted by it. I would suggest that this notion that women are more fluid in their sexuality is mostly cultural given a circumstantial boost by the biological fact that it is easier for a woman to fake interest in a man than the other way round. Personally, I look forward to the day when we can move past these severely limiting terms, when sexuality can be allowed to be an aspect of a life and not its defining feature. But so long as so many people make such a good living off it I fear that won’t happen soon.

Maggie Gallagher is very much to the point. She is an aspect of what we have to endure on a daily basis. And since she’s always talking about God why would I not reckon her to be a Christian and therefor a vocal spokesperson for the overwhelming majority that tries to harm my life. A majority that clearly harmed this poor man’s life and caused him to kill himself rather than admit he was gay. That is the problem.

Thanks for the follow-up. I a back to back today and tomorrow and want to follow up. I have read your note and see that you carefully crafted this follow-up response.

You used the phrase “What kind of people patiently plan and then wait for such a person’s failure?” Not “What kind of person…” which implies that gay men in general are being condemned. Please don’t misunderstand, I don’t mean to be condemnatory or impute motives to anyone. Comments make one sound more emphatic than is necessarily the case. I only remarked on this because I found the man’s life and death deserving of pity and perhaps his example might encourage some to broaden their perspective.

I use the term ex-gay industry because it is run for profit by people who are completely without professional credentials. It is a branch of the personal actualization industry, just more narrowly focused. No research supports its claims, in fact the reverse is true, but yet we still have to endure the constant rehashing of Nicolosi and Cameron’s nonsense. Reality doesn’t seem to matter. The term SSA doesn’t exist anywhere outside the ex-gay industry and is entirely polluted by it. I would suggest that this notion that women are more fluid in their sexuality is mostly cultural given a circumstantial boost by the biological fact that it is easier for a woman to fake interest in a man than the other way round. Personally, I look forward to the day when we can move past these severely limiting terms, when sexuality can be allowed to be an aspect of a life and not its defining feature. But so long as so many people make such a good living off it I fear that won’t happen soon.

Maggie Gallagher is very much to the point. She is an aspect of what we have to endure on a daily basis. And since she’s always talking about God why would I not reckon her to be a Christian and therefor a vocal spokesperson for the overwhelming majority that tries to harm my life. A majority that clearly harmed this poor man’s life and caused him to kill himself rather than admit he was gay. That is the problem.