https://wthrockmorton.com/2009/06/16/sexual-abuse-and-the-perception-of-children-jerome-kagan-and-the-nature-of-the-child/ A [retired] college psychology professor's observations about public policy, mental health, sexual identity, and religious issues Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:47:48 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 https://wthrockmorton.com/2009/06/16/sexual-abuse-and-the-perception-of-children-jerome-kagan-and-the-nature-of-the-child/#comment-28072 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:47:48 +0000 https://www.wthrockmorton.com/?p=3777#comment-28072 Okay. I got you now.

]]> https://wthrockmorton.com/2009/06/16/sexual-abuse-and-the-perception-of-children-jerome-kagan-and-the-nature-of-the-child/#comment-28071 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:43:13 +0000 https://www.wthrockmorton.com/?p=3777#comment-28071 Trinidad–
I don’t know the answer to that one. I was brought up in the age of sexualization…a teen in the 60’s. I think that men can and do talk to one another in the restroom, my anecdotal reference was to the seeming custom of women to invite another woman along…not just converse with someone who is already in there.

]]> https://wthrockmorton.com/2009/06/16/sexual-abuse-and-the-perception-of-children-jerome-kagan-and-the-nature-of-the-child/#comment-28070 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:21:08 +0000 https://www.wthrockmorton.com/?p=3777#comment-28070 I’m inclined to believe that social expectations and the individuals response mix in a variety of ways that guide our sexuality. Regardless of what culture or social taboos are present in the behaviors of sexuality, there will always be people who experience something out of that cultural norm or who interpret it differently than others. Hence we can be pushed and bumped by our interpretations and social expectations in many, many ways.

]]> https://wthrockmorton.com/2009/06/16/sexual-abuse-and-the-perception-of-children-jerome-kagan-and-the-nature-of-the-child/#comment-28069 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:20:44 +0000 https://www.wthrockmorton.com/?p=3777#comment-28069 Eddy, my brother or cousin would put sunscreen on me but I am black so I don’t use it. I think it depends on how comfortable you are as well.
My question is: before the sexualization of everything (or more specifically the gay rights movement) did men talk to one another in the restroom?

]]> https://wthrockmorton.com/2009/06/16/sexual-abuse-and-the-perception-of-children-jerome-kagan-and-the-nature-of-the-child/#comment-28068 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 13:38:22 +0000 https://www.wthrockmorton.com/?p=3777#comment-28068 The examples provided in this thread caused me to reflect on this weekend’s ‘pool party’ at my brother’s house. My nephew was there with his wife; my niece with her boyfriend, myself, my sister in law, and two other single adult males. My sister in law is part American Indian; she and her children are naturally darker in complexion than the rest of us ‘very white’ folks.
What occurs to me now is that the only people who were able to recline on their stomach, hence exposing their backs to the sun, were the couples. In short, even though I, and the two other single males, needed sunscreen more than any of the others, we had no one to ‘lotion’ our backs. The need for sunscreen was not sexual but neither family bond or close friendship was sufficient to break through the notion that lotioning someone’s back is somehow sexual and intimate.
We may be sexually liberated on some levels but we are bound by a boatload of taboos.
LOL. Go to a restaurant or bar with a group and ask a guy at the table to ‘accompany you to the restroom’. Women do it all the time…not because they need help urinating and not necessarily because they need protection…sometimes it’s just to chat. Even if the guys did need to chat, they’d do it anywhere except the restroom.
Branding by others would happen to some level if we violated either of these taboos.

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