How is it that child sexual abuse perpetrated by a male on a girl can maker her turn out to be a lesbian (that is try to avoid intimacy with men) but cause a boy to turn out gay?

Wouldn’t he reasonably try to avoid men also?

Because many who hold this view also hold that a mother who is too intimate with her son can drive him into the arms of men (I have heard the term “emotional incest”).

As an aside, we have not figured out yet what to do with lesbians. They don’t show nearly the same patterns as men with SSA do (fraternal birth order etc.).

Do you know if bilateral lesians are associated with trauma?

None that I’ve heard of. It’s usually about serious injury, disease – sclerosis, tumors, Alzheimer’s, stroke, etc. Some causes are unknown.

FOO = Family Of Origin.

It does seem to me that among men who have sex with men (so not necessarily gay) that there’s an imbalance between those who either are the doer or will go either way, and the guys who definitely want only to be the done.

I’m going on things like the AOL hookup sites, Craigslist, etc…. so a promiscuous, and probably not completely gay group.

And on the support sites for bisexual men, it’s a huge surprise to learn a man wants to be the doer when he’s with men.

Rob has said that one of the things about sex with men is that he “doesn’t have to do anything” — I’m pretty sure he means sexually, but also socially, just punch a key, and free sex. No dating, no talking, no doing.

My gay friends, on the other hand, seem to like to date 🙂

K.

Do you know if bilateral lesians are associated with trauma?

Rob has two siblings with sever Autism — no language development at all. Of course, while they’d probably still be Autistic to a degree, growing up with his parents didn’t help matters a lot.

But I’ve wondered if Rob might not also be somewhat affected by Autism.

K.