Comments on: Mankind Project on marriage: Is this good or bad advice?

By: Matthew

Matthew — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 09:21:30 +0000

This is a pile of crap. It pretends all men and women are the same. I am in Meyers Briggs terms an Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiver INFP. And if listened to this crap and used it as a guide I would be out of integrity with my authenticity. I loving compassionate caring kind intelligent creative supportive etc. I have no problem getting dates. I have had one 5 year relationship and many other shorter term relationships. The five year one was with a compliment ISTP woman. We hit a communication wall – but Neither of us were “whimps” in the relationship.
MKP is full of this sort of shit!!! And they discredit themselves. Carl Jung is rolling in his grave. Not to mention the Wheelwrights.
I wish there were men’s groups that did not popularize the sexist crap!

By: Eddy

Eddy — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 00:15:50 +0000

In high school, more than half of the girls I knew well ‘pursued’ the bad boys. Belushi nailed that part on the head. But, in a diverse world, it’s just wrong to presume that ALL girls feel that way. Many don’t. And many don’t even know WHAT to feel.
But as I reflect, the majority of them had more unhappiness and instability than those who were drawn to another type of man. Some drawn to shyness, some to quietness, some to awkwardness or goofiness, some to seriousness, bookishness,
I like Belushi but if I were looking for the real image of a man, I’d go for Randy and his Tigger mentality. (Forgive me…I think it’s Paullk…”The Last Lecture”.)

By: jayhuck

jayhuck — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 04:15:01 +0000

Drowssap et al,
You can’t lump ALL WOMEN or ALL MEN into a category – you can’t make sweeping generalizations about any group of people. Your personal experiences should be respected, as I believe mine should, but they don’t speak for all or even most of the rest of the world. I think its important to keep that in mind sometimes. Do SOME women like what Belushi is professing, I’m sure they do, but what I hear most from my female friends is that they don’t like a guy to be too much either way. The problem often seems that for groups like this its black or white, when really we’re always dealing with shades of grey 🙂
I often wonder if the problem is not that women don’t know what they want, its that others aren’t doing a good enough job at listening to what they are actually saying they want.

By: Drowssap

Drowssap — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 15:42:25 +0000

Ann

While I knew I respected him and enjoyed his company, I didn’t fall in love with him until I saw him put milk in a measuring cup and dunk graham crackers in it and then eat them slowly with a spoon. Funny about chemistry – I had to see this side of him to fall in love.

Ya know it’s funny, you sound like my wife. A couple of weeks ago my wife and I were at a restaraunt and I did something dorky. I didn’t immediately catch what I had done, but my wife looks at me and says in a pleasant voice, “that’s why I love you.” And then I realized that I had just looked silly but she actually found it pleasing. So… I just shrugged my shoulders sheepishly and smiled.

By: Drowssap

Drowssap — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 15:33:08 +0000

Ann

A man that is busy with other things and people they consider important will perk a woman’s interest.

You are so right and this is exactly what I learned over time. When I was really young I probably showed too much immediate interest. About the time I hit 18 or 19 I realized that at least initially I was much better off being friendly but aloof. The girls I met were friends of people in my college friend group. So we’d all hang out and sometimes a new girl would be around. If I acted like she was just another person I did so much better than zeroing in on her. I’d just yuck it up with my friends and if we were genuinely having a good time that would draw her to me/us.