Comments on: This is your brain. This is your brain on sex.

By: Zoe Brain

Zoe Brain — Wed, 21 May 2008 04:47:58 +0000

Al,
Please try to let go of the bitterness. Not for their sake, but for yours.
That’s easy for me to say, of course. And I’m not going to play games of competitive victimology, of how gays have it easy compared to trans, who have it easy compared to intersex, yada yada.
You’ve been hurt. You’ve been treated unjustly. You’ve been put through HELL by know-nothing, ignorant, hypocritical bastards. You didn’t deserve that, it’s not just unfair and unjust, it’s monstrous, it should never have happened. I’m not going to mutter stupid, uncaring and downright cruel platitudes about “Deal with it”. That’s all rubbish.
I do ask you to let go of your bitterness though, because of the damage it’s continuing to cause you. It was their wounds that caused it, it is they who are guilty, but you can do something to help heal yourself.
It’s doing you no good, and that is what they want. Well, show them how futile their evil bastardry is. Let the anger go. Be better than they are, they’ll hate that. Do that just to spite them at first, and soon you’ll find you’re healing yourself. After that, you’ll let the anger go out of habit. And after that, you’ll start to feel some compassion for them, for no matter how bad things are for you, being locked up inside their heads would be worse.
Then you realise they’re human too, they have their own insecurities and hurts. It will be because you have been reviled and scorned, beaten and bruised, that you have the strength to love. To be compassionate. Maybe you can help them to be too.
By all means defend yourself, and do what you can to stop them from hurting others. But as you do so, you will remember their humanity, like yours.
I don’t regard myself as Christian. But that part of His message is spot on.

By: al nonymous

al nonymous — Tue, 20 May 2008 19:16:38 +0000

i think you’ll find that “feminine acting” gay men are that way because of abandonment and rejection by father and/or society….i struggled with that at various
times in my life – and it totally went away when i saw a therapist that seemed to be
supportive…i began to trust straight people again for a while and would defend myself
against anyone for about 6 months or so, and began to dream big dreams for
myself and a world that could be…..then i had another horrific and humilitiating
experience at hands of straight people again, people that i had trusted – people i had believed were decent and kind, and all the old problems returned….
hate and resentment, feminine acting, etc…..so i return to the abusive family of origin and they get away with whatever they want and everyone turns a blind eye to the abuse, just like in childhood – hmmm, we get to treat him like shit because, well because we’ve always treated him like shit……also, dont know if this is some kind psych blog or something, but i have found 9/10 of them to be about worthless scumbags-and the more money they charged the more worhtless they were….
the problems that gay people have are because of this society….
if you’re not gay, you dont have a clue – in grade school, children who had been your friends for 5-6 years turn their back on you, your family turns back on you and blames you and the abuse starts all over again….you have nothing left in the world, NOTHING, NO ONE TO TURN TO, NOT EVEN THE GOD DAMN CHURCH….
people dont have to respect others that they dont fear, and right now gays are about at the stage that blacks were in the “yes boss” minstrel era….kick em in the teeth and they still say thanks master….straight will never get it, the pompous asses
want to vote on whether or not gays are “allowed” to marry – really?? you’re going to VOTE on my rights?? thats very big of you….most gays i know arent interested in marriage, they’re interested in being respected as human beings, and being seen as more than just a FAGGOT or a DYKE….
i guess this is some dumb sex blog or dumb psych blog, i just dont really care…
Rev. Jeremiah Wright kind of a nut, but he is letting whites( i am white) know
what many blacks really think…..i thought maybe some of you would like to know
what many gays really think – (if you are straight, they dont think much of you)

By: Zoe Brain

Zoe Brain — Mon, 19 May 2008 07:04:41 +0000

Having read Dr Bailey’s presentation at the Catholic University, I have two requests. Well, not so much requests as heartfelt pleas.
First, to replicate the fMRI experiments on groups who have been diagnosed as Transsexual, and a sampling of Intersexed people too. MtoFs and FtoMs, and of all sexual orientations. Both in the “early transition” group and the “late transition” group.
Second,not to solely concentrate on sexual orientation. There are many other sexually dimorphic neurological differences that can be measured. Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity appear to be loosely, not closely coupled.
Although I have severe misgivings about the reliability of plethysmography, I have no such misgivings about fMRI. And frankly, I was impressed by his presentation.
I would like less guesswork, more data, and let the cards fall as they may. I suspect I need have no fear of Dr Bailey bowing to Political Correctness there.
This isn’t just of academic interest to me, I would like to know more about myself, whether that confirms my own beliefs or refutes them.

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 19 May 2008 04:20:18 +0000

Oh yeah – total sweat, sticky and icky – not so my style. But some sweat. And yeah, who puts those photo shoots together anyhow? Haven’t seen the out.com one’s – probably won’t check it out either. They start to look all the same to me.

By: Ellie

Ellie — Mon, 19 May 2008 04:00:48 +0000

Maybe if it was light yoga exercising it would be non-icky? Although that’s not necessarily easy to tell apart from non-yoga posing.