Comments on: More on the APA symposium cancellation

By: ANT

ANT — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 07:33:11 +0000

Holy smokes…I just found this discussion board after googling my name using the blog beta search..I wish one of you would have come to me directly and asked me to clarify my Stern show comments. I would have been more than happy to.
I have absolutely no desire to be straight. Never have. Once, after the movie The Matrix my mother asked me, “if you could take the red pill to be straight..or the blue pill to stay gay…which would you take?”
I told her I would take 2 blue pills just to be sure I stayed gay. It makes me who I am. It is an integral part of my character, essence and soul.
My comments that day were out of sheer emotion and frustration with where my relationship was heading. My partner had been untruthful with me about a lot of facts regarding who he was…I felt like our entire relationship was built on tissue paper. We ended it a few weeks prior to that appearance on Stern. I was still upset, hurt and angry. Howard brought up a wound that wasn’t healed. I reacted and looking back, poorly.
That’s where my comments about being with a woman (Tig) and going straight came from. And to be 100% upfront with you all…I do work in entertainment…not all of what you hear on the radio or see on tv is the FULL story or most complete picture.
We are all very complex people and there are no black or white answers…I have always preferred the label “Sexual” over all others. Shades of grey. It goes with everything.
ANT
http://www.antcomic.com
PS
And yes this is really me.

By: Michael Bussee

Michael Bussee — Sat, 17 May 2008 19:20:31 +0000

Warren: What wendy says may be very similar to the SIT framework you propose. I think what makes it different is that she is saying it — not someone who once supported NARTH, featured exorcist, ex-lesbians in a film or suggested it might be OK to fix gay fetuses in utero. It’s WHO is saying it, not WHAT.

By: Mary

Mary — Thu, 08 May 2008 23:53:14 +0000

Who knows Michael what the future holds. I did say that I can find women attractive but not in a sexual lustful way – more like – ooh I like her hair or she has a nice figure, I wish my butt was smaller – sort of thing.

By: Warren

Warren — Thu, 08 May 2008 15:00:01 +0000

Michael – What Wendy said is very similar to the SIT framework except that the therapist does not automatically refer the client even if the client takes a value direction different than the therapists. She is saying that as a conservative Christian ministry so of course she would refer. However, therapists may not care which direction the client goes or even if the therapist has a value position may be fine to work with clients to pursue different goals.

By: Michael Bussee

Michael Bussee — Thu, 08 May 2008 14:49:16 +0000

Wendy: Thanks for this comment: “We’re not focused on orientation change …. we’re focused on supporting same-gender attracted people to clarify their sense of identity and values and then live in a manner that is consistent. If that identity is gay and if their values are gay affirmative we will help to connect them with an appropriate source of support as they continue their journey.”
And that’s EXACTLY why you would be the only person I might mention if a client needed a referal.