Yes, I understand – my question is this though, was his decision to end his marriage one that he WANTED or one that he felt he HAD to do? From what he wrote, I discerned that he WANTED to be married to a woman and have children and a family and did that – then he went to counseling and made the decision he could no longer stay married. It just makes me sad to think he could not have what he really wanted. In regards to him being happy now – I hope he is but question why he entered a facility for alcohol rehabilitation if all was so well.

I don’t think it was a matter of not knowing what to do, I think he was trying to be who he was – who he believed God has made him to be, and not try to change that. I believe he came to an understanding that homosexuality is not a sin, and that made all the difference for him. He also seems MUCH happier now. Personally, I think he’s a great man! 🙂

I do think a process like this can help tremendously with straight people. I think it is a very good idea to investigate one’s purpose/motivation/ideas or ideals for selecting a mate.

I must admit I’m straight but maybe a process like this could help someone struggling with SSA.

I think the term you are looking for is “conditioning”, and while conditioning is no doubt a part of the picture, the overall literature that I’ve read suggests that it is simplistic to think that conditioning is all that there is to the picture.