I could have saved myself some brainwracking!

And I’ve just noticed the paragraph that starts “He is more than right…” was meant to all be in italics. It reads like it’s addressed specifically to Warren, as the other paragraphs were, and it wasn’t meant to be. It’s a more general statement, for anyone.

http://www.commentarymagazine.com/Summaries/V97I2P51-1.htm

or that of many black people:

http://www.blink.org.uk/print.asp?key=9820

http://www.cduniverse.com/search/xx/music/pid/6772429/a/Proud+To+Be+Black.htm

http://www.charlotte.com/mld/charlotte/news/nation/13255636.htm

yes, truly narcissism all around!

I just remembered the word I was looking for in the above post: grateful. Sorry, brain cell that was stored in must have gone to sleep.

There isn’t a day that goes by, even when we are in disagreement over something ultimately trivial, when I am not grateful: about me, for him, because of “us”.

That is the word I tend to use, in conversation. You’d be wrong to interpret it as pride.

If you think, and pass on, that being self-assured and/or proud of your relationship (or your intention of one) is nothing but narcissism; then you are not normalizing disagreement. You are trying to turn one side into a pathology.

I assume you wouldn’t consider heterosexual man or woman asking (and expecting) people to attend their public wedding, or demanding that people treat their partner with at least polite respect are infatuated with themself.

When I stand up to an insult hurled at my relationship I am defending him, not myself.

He is more than right for me and a good person, thank you for asking, and to suggest otherwise is just plain rude and insulting. You are entitled to them, but may keep those views to yourself and I will not be silent if you decide to do otherwise.

I’d expect you to do the same if someone behaved that way regarding your own family. Actually, I’d support you and ask that the rude person shut-up. That doesn’t make you prideful, let alone narcissistic.

I find it interesting that you did not describe the personal religious beliefs of the parents etc as selfish or narcissim, or attempt to turn their behaviour into a pathology.

Frankly, have you ever considered that your own low regard for gay people or their relationships is itself selfish and self-infactuated?

(I assume you’re addressing the personal here; as “Pride Day” etc has entirely different dynamic with a deliberate public and political statement to make.)