30 thoughts on “CNN: Efforts to change feminine boy created a troubled man”

  1. It appears that Rekers’ condones corporal punishment for gender atypical behavior.

  2. *SIGH*
    Here’s a heavily cherry-picked sample of The Christian World View of the Family , Edited by Dr. George Rekers, Ph.D., Chairman; Jerry Regier, M.A.B.S., Co-Chairman; With contributions by members of the Family Committee of The Coalition on Revival; Dr. Jay Grimstead, General Editor; E. Calvin Beisner, M.A., Assistant to the General Editor:

    We deny that premarital and extramarital sexual relationships, promiscuity, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, exhibitionism, pornography, adult-child sexual relations, prostitution, and sex-act entertainment, masturbation, and other sexual deviations should be sanctioned or accepted as “normal” or legal, even if done alone or by consenting partners; and that any sexual behavior that deviates from the norm of a loving, marital heterosexuality can be considered a mature, untreatable, or acceptable life-long pattern, even if the individual involved does not wish to change.

    We affirm that the husband has final say in any family dispute, insofar as he does not violate Biblical principles; that a husband’s headship is irrevocable;

    We deny that the state has a right to impose unrealistic standards on families; that the so-called offenses of “emotional neglect,” “emotional abuse,” “educational neglect,” etc., which form the bulk of substantiated reports of “child abuse and neglect,” are in fact crimes against children;

    We affirm that Biblical spanking may cause temporary and superficial bruises or welts that do not constitute child abuse, but that proven brutality to a child resulting in permanent disfigurement or serious injury should be punished by law

    So temporary disfigurement is fine, and there’s no such thing as emotional cruelty. And Masturbation should be illegal. As should any sex outside marriage.
    This from a man who is a practicing Child Psychologist.
    Warren, I commented about this many moons ago. I called for an investigation, follow-ups of this man’s patients. I want to know how many children have died. I want to know how these Hyper-Christian Hypocrites who seem devoid of empathy can get away with this for so long.
    At some point, there is a restriction, not on religious belief, but on religious practice. To take the most extreme example, devout, genuine worshippers of Huitzilopochtli are not allowed to practice human sacrifice, no matter how much a core belief that may be. At what point does cult belief become a disqualifier for medical practioners who practice what they preach on children? At what point do professional organisations have a duty to step in?
    I don’t know: trample not on others religions, if you don’t want yours to be trampled on in turn. But there have to be limits.

  3. We affirm that Biblical spanking may cause temporary and superficial bruises or welts that do not constitute child abuse, but that proven brutality to a child resulting in permanent disfigurement or serious injury should be punished by law

    This suggests he supported the physical abuse of Kirk by his father as a legitimate way to carry out the treatment program.

  4. Biblical spanking – LOL. You have to permanently disfigure a child before he will call it abuse? So-called offenses? This man is insane.

  5. DAVE G said:

    Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.

    Agreed.

  6. @Jase –

    This is the face of Christianity today.

    No it’s not, any more than the Folsom Street Fair is the fact of Gays.
    It’s a pathological form of religiousity. Christianity is far more diverse. Yes, this is a part of it, and possibly the most politically powerful part of it. It’s sick and dangerous.
    Have a look at The Christian World View of Psychology and Counseling
    Mr. George C. Scipione, Th.M., M.A., Chairman • Dr. Lawrence Crabb, Ph.D., Co-Chairman • Dr. Ed Payne, M.D., Co-Chairman • With contributions by members of the Psychology and Counseling Committee of The Coalition on Revival • Dr. Jay Grimstead, D.Min., General Editor • Mr. E. Calvin Beisner, M.A., Assistant to the General Editor
    George Rekers being the most prominent member of the Psychology and Counseling Committee .

    We affirm that the Bible is the authoritative source of knowledge for psychology and counseling as in all other areas of life. We deny that any other source of knowledge is equally authoritative with the Bible for psychology and counseling.

    We affirm that the subject matter of counseling is precisely the same as that of the Bible and, therefore, the Bible completely equips us with the theory and principles of counseling. We deny that the Bible is inadequate for the theory and practice of counseling.

    We affirm that the scientific method is useful in carrying out the creation mandate of Genesis 1:28 to subdue and have dominion over creation when the investigators have Biblical presuppositions and when the Bible does not directly give us the answers we seek; that the use of the scientific method is entirely controlled by the presuppositions of the investigators and therefore the results are a pronouncement of faith rather than of scientific fact; and that the faith nature of the results of scientific investigation is evidenced by the investigators’ proselytizing intent, that is, their attempt to transform man into their idea of what man should be. We deny that the scientific method can ever be applied in psychology without its being thoroughly determined by the presuppositions of the investigators.

    We affirm that all personal problems have their roots in the sin of Adam and Eve; that non-organic (and even many organic) problems are immediately affected by personal selfishness and rebellion against God and His Law….We deny that these problems may be explained entirely on any other basis; that men are basically “good” (moral)….

    We affirm that creatures who have only a spiritual dimension exist, that some serve God faithfully (angels) and others are in active rebellion against God (demons), and that the latter may possess unregenerate persons and oppress or influence regenerate persons. We deny that the Christian counselor may neglect the reality of demons, and that personal problems, organic or non-organic, are never the result of the influence of or possession by demons.

    All people are Evil. Unless restrained by an Invisible Sky Policeman, they will act with depravity – as all the authors of this work do, when they think God sanctions it, allows it, even approves of it.
    “Science” is dismissed; if they use the forms of science, it’s only to proselytise – and they assume that everyone else does that too, so have no issues with manufacturing data to refute others’ evidence, that they assume is manufactured too.
    Demons have reality. All Truth is in the Bible, it’s the only book a Christian Counsellor or Psychologist needs.
    I don’t know what professional licences George Rekers and the other anonymous “Christian Counselors and Psychologists” have. Neither do I know what professional associations they belong to. But I really, really hope that those organisations do some house-cleaning here.

  7. Dave G said:
    “Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.”
    I’m quite prepared to appreciate each indiduals gifts, but not at the cost of clear thinking. “Masculinity” and “feminity” are quite clear defined on a comparative scale as “that which is more frequent in males” resp. “that which is more frequent in females”. Would you prefer a “persuasive definition”, like, “masculinity is that which ought to be more frequent in males”? And do you believ that communication will be better if everyone uses his personal “persuasive definition”?

  8. Dave G said:
    “Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.”
    I’m quite prepared to appreciate each indiduals gifts, but not at the cost of clear thinking. “Masculinity” and “feminity” are quite clear defined on a comparative scale as “that which is more frequent in males” resp. “that which is more frequent in females”. Would you prefer a “persuasive definition”, like, “masculinity is that which ought to be more frequent in males”? And do you believ that communication will be better if everyone uses his personal “persuasive definition”?

  9. @Jase –

    This is the face of Christianity today.

    No it’s not, any more than the Folsom Street Fair is the fact of Gays.
    It’s a pathological form of religiousity. Christianity is far more diverse. Yes, this is a part of it, and possibly the most politically powerful part of it. It’s sick and dangerous.
    Have a look at The Christian World View of Psychology and Counseling
    Mr. George C. Scipione, Th.M., M.A., Chairman • Dr. Lawrence Crabb, Ph.D., Co-Chairman • Dr. Ed Payne, M.D., Co-Chairman • With contributions by members of the Psychology and Counseling Committee of The Coalition on Revival • Dr. Jay Grimstead, D.Min., General Editor • Mr. E. Calvin Beisner, M.A., Assistant to the General Editor
    George Rekers being the most prominent member of the Psychology and Counseling Committee .

    We affirm that the Bible is the authoritative source of knowledge for psychology and counseling as in all other areas of life. We deny that any other source of knowledge is equally authoritative with the Bible for psychology and counseling.

    We affirm that the subject matter of counseling is precisely the same as that of the Bible and, therefore, the Bible completely equips us with the theory and principles of counseling. We deny that the Bible is inadequate for the theory and practice of counseling.

    We affirm that the scientific method is useful in carrying out the creation mandate of Genesis 1:28 to subdue and have dominion over creation when the investigators have Biblical presuppositions and when the Bible does not directly give us the answers we seek; that the use of the scientific method is entirely controlled by the presuppositions of the investigators and therefore the results are a pronouncement of faith rather than of scientific fact; and that the faith nature of the results of scientific investigation is evidenced by the investigators’ proselytizing intent, that is, their attempt to transform man into their idea of what man should be. We deny that the scientific method can ever be applied in psychology without its being thoroughly determined by the presuppositions of the investigators.

    We affirm that all personal problems have their roots in the sin of Adam and Eve; that non-organic (and even many organic) problems are immediately affected by personal selfishness and rebellion against God and His Law….We deny that these problems may be explained entirely on any other basis; that men are basically “good” (moral)….

    We affirm that creatures who have only a spiritual dimension exist, that some serve God faithfully (angels) and others are in active rebellion against God (demons), and that the latter may possess unregenerate persons and oppress or influence regenerate persons. We deny that the Christian counselor may neglect the reality of demons, and that personal problems, organic or non-organic, are never the result of the influence of or possession by demons.

    All people are Evil. Unless restrained by an Invisible Sky Policeman, they will act with depravity – as all the authors of this work do, when they think God sanctions it, allows it, even approves of it.
    “Science” is dismissed; if they use the forms of science, it’s only to proselytise – and they assume that everyone else does that too, so have no issues with manufacturing data to refute others’ evidence, that they assume is manufactured too.
    Demons have reality. All Truth is in the Bible, it’s the only book a Christian Counsellor or Psychologist needs.
    I don’t know what professional licences George Rekers and the other anonymous “Christian Counselors and Psychologists” have. Neither do I know what professional associations they belong to. But I really, really hope that those organisations do some house-cleaning here.

  10. David Blakeslee…… I do not know where Schmierer gets his ideas. The list seems absurd in the context you present it.

    Well the context was simply the excerpt at the FotF website. I find it difficult to think that 6 year olds are viewing porn myself.

  11. We deny that premarital and extramarital sexual relationships, promiscuity, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, exhibitionism, pornography, adult-child sexual relations, prostitution, and sex-act entertainment, masturbation, and other sexual deviations should be sanctioned or accepted as “normal” or legal, even if done alone or by consenting partners;

    Would sexual massage from a certified luggage lifer be included in “other sexual deviations”?
    And as for biblical spanking, well… a bible leaves fewer welts than a belt.

  12. We affirm that Biblical spanking may cause temporary and superficial bruises or welts that do not constitute child abuse, but that proven brutality to a child resulting in permanent disfigurement or serious injury should be punished by law

    This suggests he supported the physical abuse of Kirk by his father as a legitimate way to carry out the treatment program.

  13. @Zoe:
    What is your point? That these Christians would inflict pain and misery to children while exculpating their abusers? That is how they treat everyone. Why should children be exempt from “Christian love”? In fact, I’d say that the article you quoted is a bit soft on the kids. Why should permanent disfigurement be off the table? Since the Bible condones the execution of disobedient children, it hardly seems consistent to complain about permanent scars.
    I don’t know who Regier is. Jay Grimstead is a well known Reconstructionist who advocates incorporating Old Testament law into today’s civil law.
    Cal Beisner is now Christianity’s leading spokesperson on the environment. Through his organization, the Cornwall Alliance, he seeks to do for the environment what his previous work did for children. The primary goal of the group appears to be combating climate change “alarmists” and the “cult of the Green dragon,” which is his derisive term for Sierra Club members and their ilk.
    I first heard Mr. Beisner speak when he appeared on Bryan Fischer’s program on AFA during the BP oil spill last year. Even though AFA broadcasts out of Mississippi, and even though many of its supporters on the Gulf Coast were in the process of being slathered in oil, AFA was uncharacteristically silent. So I tuned in to hear what a Christian environmentalist would have to say about it.
    As best I can tell, Beisner and Fischer’s two main concerns were that BP was being “shaken down” for money to pay for the damage it caused and that Pres. Obama was trying to limit offshore drilling. They had little or nothing to say about the dead rig workers or the people who had to worry if their fish was now poisoned for decades to come. The video is probably still up at AFA if you can stomach it.
    This is the face of Christianity today.

  14. David Blakeslee…… I do not know where Schmierer gets his ideas. The list seems absurd in the context you present it.

    Well the context was simply the excerpt at the FotF website. I find it difficult to think that 6 year olds are viewing porn myself.

  15. Biblical spanking – LOL. You have to permanently disfigure a child before he will call it abuse? So-called offenses? This man is insane.

  16. *SIGH*
    Here’s a heavily cherry-picked sample of The Christian World View of the Family , Edited by Dr. George Rekers, Ph.D., Chairman; Jerry Regier, M.A.B.S., Co-Chairman; With contributions by members of the Family Committee of The Coalition on Revival; Dr. Jay Grimstead, General Editor; E. Calvin Beisner, M.A., Assistant to the General Editor:

    We deny that premarital and extramarital sexual relationships, promiscuity, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, exhibitionism, pornography, adult-child sexual relations, prostitution, and sex-act entertainment, masturbation, and other sexual deviations should be sanctioned or accepted as “normal” or legal, even if done alone or by consenting partners; and that any sexual behavior that deviates from the norm of a loving, marital heterosexuality can be considered a mature, untreatable, or acceptable life-long pattern, even if the individual involved does not wish to change.

    We affirm that the husband has final say in any family dispute, insofar as he does not violate Biblical principles; that a husband’s headship is irrevocable;

    We deny that the state has a right to impose unrealistic standards on families; that the so-called offenses of “emotional neglect,” “emotional abuse,” “educational neglect,” etc., which form the bulk of substantiated reports of “child abuse and neglect,” are in fact crimes against children;

    We affirm that Biblical spanking may cause temporary and superficial bruises or welts that do not constitute child abuse, but that proven brutality to a child resulting in permanent disfigurement or serious injury should be punished by law

    So temporary disfigurement is fine, and there’s no such thing as emotional cruelty. And Masturbation should be illegal. As should any sex outside marriage.
    This from a man who is a practicing Child Psychologist.
    Warren, I commented about this many moons ago. I called for an investigation, follow-ups of this man’s patients. I want to know how many children have died. I want to know how these Hyper-Christian Hypocrites who seem devoid of empathy can get away with this for so long.
    At some point, there is a restriction, not on religious belief, but on religious practice. To take the most extreme example, devout, genuine worshippers of Huitzilopochtli are not allowed to practice human sacrifice, no matter how much a core belief that may be. At what point does cult belief become a disqualifier for medical practioners who practice what they preach on children? At what point do professional organisations have a duty to step in?
    I don’t know: trample not on others religions, if you don’t want yours to be trampled on in turn. But there have to be limits.

  17. We deny that premarital and extramarital sexual relationships, promiscuity, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, exhibitionism, pornography, adult-child sexual relations, prostitution, and sex-act entertainment, masturbation, and other sexual deviations should be sanctioned or accepted as “normal” or legal, even if done alone or by consenting partners;

    Would sexual massage from a certified luggage lifer be included in “other sexual deviations”?
    And as for biblical spanking, well… a bible leaves fewer welts than a belt.

  18. @Zoe:
    What is your point? That these Christians would inflict pain and misery to children while exculpating their abusers? That is how they treat everyone. Why should children be exempt from “Christian love”? In fact, I’d say that the article you quoted is a bit soft on the kids. Why should permanent disfigurement be off the table? Since the Bible condones the execution of disobedient children, it hardly seems consistent to complain about permanent scars.
    I don’t know who Regier is. Jay Grimstead is a well known Reconstructionist who advocates incorporating Old Testament law into today’s civil law.
    Cal Beisner is now Christianity’s leading spokesperson on the environment. Through his organization, the Cornwall Alliance, he seeks to do for the environment what his previous work did for children. The primary goal of the group appears to be combating climate change “alarmists” and the “cult of the Green dragon,” which is his derisive term for Sierra Club members and their ilk.
    I first heard Mr. Beisner speak when he appeared on Bryan Fischer’s program on AFA during the BP oil spill last year. Even though AFA broadcasts out of Mississippi, and even though many of its supporters on the Gulf Coast were in the process of being slathered in oil, AFA was uncharacteristically silent. So I tuned in to hear what a Christian environmentalist would have to say about it.
    As best I can tell, Beisner and Fischer’s two main concerns were that BP was being “shaken down” for money to pay for the damage it caused and that Pres. Obama was trying to limit offshore drilling. They had little or nothing to say about the dead rig workers or the people who had to worry if their fish was now poisoned for decades to come. The video is probably still up at AFA if you can stomach it.
    This is the face of Christianity today.

  19. @ Lynn David.
    I do not know where Schmierer gets his ideas. The list seems absurd in the context you present it.

  20. Lynn,

    But certainly positive reinforcement would be a better route than Reker’s corporal punishment.

    If I remember correctly, Rekers also employed positive reinforcement in his mixed bag of “tricks”.

  21. @ Lynn David.
    I do not know where Schmierer gets his ideas. The list seems absurd in the context you present it.

  22. Lynn,

    But certainly positive reinforcement would be a better route than Reker’s corporal punishment.

    If I remember correctly, Rekers also employed positive reinforcement in his mixed bag of “tricks”.

  23. Dave,

    Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.

    Absolutely! I blame, in part, an American media that seems in some ways bent on spoon feeding people gender stereotypes.
    This is such a tragedy.
    Lynn,
    I’m sure you noticed, but corporal punishment was not the only “punishment” offered. The mother ignoring the son as he acted in ways that were considered too feminine was another more emotional type used.

  24. There are a myriad of other ways that a parent can show their disagreements with a child’s behavior. Admittedly, when a male child displays a feminine attitude and is otherwise not misbehaving, one might be at a loss as to how to express that disagreement. But certainly positive reinforcement would be a better route than Reker’s corporal punishment. In fact, Reker’s corporal punishment by the father is somewhat akin to reinforcing the daddy issues of neo-Freudian psychologists such as Nicolosi.
    It all makes me wonder what Don Schmierer suggests in “An Ounce of Prevention” – I have not read the book. The most I know about the book comes from the Focus on the Family website, troubledwith.com. And that’s the first time I have come to know about that website. The excerpt on that site says:

    Like many other adult problems, homosexuality begins at home. Mom and Dad are key players.

    But further states as causes of homosexuality:

    As important as parent-child dynamics are, they aren’t the only concerns. The following factors can also contribute to the homosexual orientation.
    •the individual person’s self-will
    •pornography
    •media and culture
    •spousal abuse in the home
    •molestation and pedophilia
    •parental adultery
    •moral relativism
    •seduction by peers
    •chemical imbalances
    •failure of leadership
    There are no perfect families, but hopefully parents will identify potential problems and deal with them before they begin.

    I am at a loss to see how some of these could be a cause of homosexuality, especially for effemincy in a young male. It seems as though Schmierer begins with ‘it’s a choice’ (self-will) and ends with pointing the finger at the father for not providing leadership. Inbetween there are some possibilities, though not by any chance a listing of causes which would fit the majority of guys I know.
    So, Warren or perhaps David Blakeslee, do you know if Schmierer has used Reker’s work in any way?

  25. Dave,

    Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.

    Absolutely! I blame, in part, an American media that seems in some ways bent on spoon feeding people gender stereotypes.
    This is such a tragedy.
    Lynn,
    I’m sure you noticed, but corporal punishment was not the only “punishment” offered. The mother ignoring the son as he acted in ways that were considered too feminine was another more emotional type used.

  26. There are a myriad of other ways that a parent can show their disagreements with a child’s behavior. Admittedly, when a male child displays a feminine attitude and is otherwise not misbehaving, one might be at a loss as to how to express that disagreement. But certainly positive reinforcement would be a better route than Reker’s corporal punishment. In fact, Reker’s corporal punishment by the father is somewhat akin to reinforcing the daddy issues of neo-Freudian psychologists such as Nicolosi.
    It all makes me wonder what Don Schmierer suggests in “An Ounce of Prevention” – I have not read the book. The most I know about the book comes from the Focus on the Family website, troubledwith.com. And that’s the first time I have come to know about that website. The excerpt on that site says:

    Like many other adult problems, homosexuality begins at home. Mom and Dad are key players.

    But further states as causes of homosexuality:

    As important as parent-child dynamics are, they aren’t the only concerns. The following factors can also contribute to the homosexual orientation.
    •the individual person’s self-will
    •pornography
    •media and culture
    •spousal abuse in the home
    •molestation and pedophilia
    •parental adultery
    •moral relativism
    •seduction by peers
    •chemical imbalances
    •failure of leadership
    There are no perfect families, but hopefully parents will identify potential problems and deal with them before they begin.

    I am at a loss to see how some of these could be a cause of homosexuality, especially for effemincy in a young male. It seems as though Schmierer begins with ‘it’s a choice’ (self-will) and ends with pointing the finger at the father for not providing leadership. Inbetween there are some possibilities, though not by any chance a listing of causes which would fit the majority of guys I know.
    So, Warren or perhaps David Blakeslee, do you know if Schmierer has used Reker’s work in any way?

  27. It appears that Rekers’ condones corporal punishment for gender atypical behavior.

  28. DAVE G said:

    Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.

    Agreed.

  29. Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.

  30. Cultural standards for “femininity” and “masculinity” are too narrowly defined. We need a broader understanding of individual gifts and abilities.

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