If you read this….

Your story seems pretty common among men who were sexually abused, and it seems to me that we’ve gone too far in one direction politically when it comes to this issue.

Too much fear, it seems to me, that if we recognize that many, if not most, men who are sexually abused experience at least some doubts/confusions about their sexual identity in some way, that we are therefore saying that all forms of “homosexuality” is caused by psychological trauma.

Frankly, I’m tired of the confusion in the literature between gay identified men and men who do not adopt a gay identity — and may have a life-long difficulty in adopting any identity at all.

Finally, it seems common sensical to me that if you attack a person’s developing sexuality, you actually might make an impact upon that development.

At any rate, my boyfriend/fiance was also sexually abused as a child. He’s a member of an online support group called “Malesurvivor.org”. If you’re not familiar with it, it might be of interest to you.

And not surprisingly, the men who do NOT experience at least some sexual confusion are in a small minority — though many work it out through therapy. And many find that merely seeing the prevelance of this among a large group of sexually abused men helps a great deal.

Take care,
Katie

Wow, ok, this is a huge red flag to me. That right there is likely a biased sample, possibly and incredibly biased one.

On today’s The 700 Club, Pat Robertson was asked what to do if your son tells you he’s gay:
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“I am not at all persuaded that so-called homosexuals are homosexuals because of biological problems. There may be a very few, but there are so many that have been made homosexuals because of a coach or a guidance counselor or some other male figure who has abused them and they think there’s something wrong with their sexuality. So you need to get deep into why he is what he is, instead of just saying, ‘Well, he’s a homosexual so how do I handle him, and how do I be Christian?’”

I think so.

There is nothing black and white, nothing clearly predictable about homosexuality. All the studies in the world will only crack the surface of this deep ocean. The more we think we know, the more questions we have.

I think the same can be, and should be said about heterosexuality

Jayhuck, can we agree that what you are really referring to here is human nature?

I often wonder if the opposite is true. A young person with SSA is molested by someone of the opposite sex and somehow ends up following a “straight track” only to find that its detrimental to them.

I would say it seems like you were most likely on a straight track and then was thrown off by this perpetrator. This is not how it is for most SSA people but when it happens, I believe it is crucial to get help for the trauma.

Thank you!

There is nothing black and white, nothing clearly predictable about homosexuality. All the studies in the world will only crack the surface of this deep ocean. The more we think we know, the more questions we have.

I think the same can be, and should be said about heterosexuality